If you have ever felt the pain of loneliness, you experienced pain because you were living a reality you were note created to live. We were created to live in eternal fellowship.
So to solve this problem, God took a rib from the man’s side and created a woman. Like the Father and the Son, the woman comes from the man. Then, like the Spirit coming from the Father and Son, children precede from the union of the man and woman so that the triune God.
It’s not good for people to be alone.
So what does that do for our understanding of marriage? When we unite with someone in marriage, we are meant to be two persons, but entirely united. We are united financially, relationally, intimately, social, and in every other aspect of life. There should be no separation or secrets between us.
When my wife and I got married, I was surprised by a feeling I did not think I would have. I imagined that we would get married, then wait a few years to have children, but after we got married, I immediately started to develop a desire to add children to our family. It was as if I wanted to expand the love that my wife and I had for each other, and that feeling was solidified when I held my son in my arms for the first time. In that moment, I knew I would do anything for him, and he did not have to do anything to earn that love.
What does this mean for single people? Look at the disciples. If you are called to remain single (many people are), then find a community that you can unite with. Don’t simply hope that you will stumble on a group like this. Make finding a community or building a community a top priority in your life. You were not created to be alone.
I actually hate that we use the word single to refer to people who aren’t married. When done well, these communities live in total transparency with each other. There are no secrets or divisions. Don’t be single. If you’re not called to marriage, allow yourself to get lonely. if you haven’t found your community yet, keep searching.
It is not good for people to be alone.